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How to Use Story To Boost Your Kids Self Confidence

Updated: Apr 4

Happy Kids Win Boost Kids Self Confidence
Happy Kids Win Boost Kids Self Confidence

Imagination and Self Confidence

My daughter's imagination is always running wild. Not a minute goes by that she isn't playing pretend teacher with her stuffed animals or being a mama with those baby dolls. The girl is always using her imagination to learn and grow.

And the thing is, I bet your child is the same way.

They take the world around them and integrate it into the lens of what is make-believe and real to learn what is happening around them.

And did you know you can use that to boost the way they see themselves?

Personally, I get a little frustrated when the little ones aren't listening and are fully throttled into make-believe, but it allows me to see what's going on and what they pick up on when mom and dad aren't around.

For example, when my daughter is playing teacher and her baby makes a mistake, the way she corrects her, the way she talks, and her actions are a direct learned behavior from school and television. This gives me as the parent a keen insight into how she perceives the world around her.

Now, let's tap into their creativity and use their talents to build up the way they see themselves.

And so, I'm calling all aspiring storytellers!

Grab your kiddo and get ready to embark on an exciting journey where their imagination knows no bounds.

Today, we'll explore the incredible power of storytelling and how it can unleash your child's inner hero. Let's dive in and let their imaginations take flight!

Children's Creativity and Imagination

Building your child's imagination is a vital aspect of their development that opens the door to endless possibilities and enhances their overall growth.

Imagination acts as a magical gateway, allowing children to explore and make sense of the world around them in a creative and innovative way. By nurturing their imagination, you are fostering their ability to think critically, problem-solve, and think outside the box.

Plus, imagination fuels curiosity, encourages exploration, and promotes emotional and social development. It empowers children to envision their dreams, develop empathy by putting themselves in others' shoes, and find unique solutions to challenges. Ultimately, building your child's imagination lays the foundation for a lifetime of creativity, innovation, and the pursuit of their dreams.

So, Why Story?

Storytelling is like a superpower that lets you create worlds, characters, and incredible adventures using only your imagination. It's a chance to be the hero of your own story and transport yourself to magical places filled with endless possibilities.

Here are a few of my kids' favorite imagination wonderlands:

  • Playing teacher and student

  • Floor is Lava

  • Daddy is a Tickle Monster

  • Making up Songs and Tunes

  • Police Officer, Fire Fighter, Princess, and/or Unicorn (yes, you can be all of these)

And this doesn't even hit the tip of the iceberg. The point is, the story sparks a passion in them to dream and find ways to connect with what they are learning and their environment.

How to Learn About Your Child Through Their Imagination

Even without telling them our kid's brain works through the following narrative of incredible storytelling. They walk through these steps and each of these areas to build out their imagination.

As parents, there are times we don't appreciate the power of their little minds but just take a minute and reflect on your kid's imagination.

Start with a Hero

Every great story needs a hero! Imagine yourself as a courageous superhero, ready to embark on a thrilling adventure. What special powers do you have? Are you super strong, able to fly, or possess a secret ability? Let your imagination run wild and create a unique superhero persona!

Ask your child,:

"Who are you?"

"Who am I"

"What are our powers/ wearing/ going/ personalities?"

By having your child give you these keen insights you can more clearly see the lens they are creating in their mind. It also may stop a temper tantrum when you put the pot back in the cabinet instead of on your head because you didn't know you were a silly chef.

Set the Stage

Where will your adventure take place? Is it a mystical forest, a futuristic city, or perhaps a faraway planet? Describe the surroundings and have your child set the stage for their journey. Ask questions about, "where you are, where you are going, and how you will get there." The more vivid your descriptions, the more you gain a deeper picture of your child imagination.

Meet the Characters

Every superhero needs companions and adversaries along the way. Who will your hero encounter on their quest? Think of exciting characters like brave firefighters, mischievous fairies, or fearsome robbers. Get to understand the characters your child brings up and ask questions about them. If there's a mean robber that takes away the toy ask, "has that ever happened to you? how did that make you feel? who did it?" This way you learn more about those our kids interact with on a daily basis and a simple way to find patterns in development.

Plot Twists and Challenges

No adventure is complete without obstacles and unexpected turns! What challenges will your hero face? Will they solve riddles, navigate treacherous terrain, or outsmart cunning enemies? Odds are your child will tell you what the struggle is they are facing when it comes to a story. Whether you are the good guy or not, the way in which your child interacts is important for you to understand. For example, they may tell a story about a character who is feeling the same way they are. This can help them express their emotions in a safe and non-threatening way. It can also help them feel more comfortable talking about their feelings in the future.

A Hero's Triumph

Every hero must face a climactic moment where they showcase their bravery and triumph over adversity. What incredible feat will your hero accomplish? Will they save the day, find a lost treasure, or bring peace to a troubled land? Celebrate your child when they reach the pinnacle of their creative imagination. Praise, support, and encouragement are so helpful for your child as they build and develop confidence through their imagination.

Questions to Build Your Child's Creativity

Here are some simple questions you can ask your child to help build their creativity and confidence.

  1. What superpower would you choose if you could have any?

  2. Imagine you discovered a hidden magical land. Describe what it looks like.

  3. If you could team up with any fictional character, who would it be and why?

  4. Think of a mysterious object that your hero finds on their adventure. What does it do?

  5. What is the biggest challenge your hero will face, and how will they overcome it?

So, the next time you get frustrated like me when they are hiding from you as the "big tickle monster", or you're running late since "toy baby needs a diaper change" remember how important the story they are weaving is. Let's take a deep breath and inspire our kid's creativity and use those questions to build their confidence.


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